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Nothing more to add now. Waiting for your reply.

Yours Jyothi."

21-01-1987 A1 Mohanan sent Ext.P7 letter to P.W.1 in Bombay says that he and his family assessed P.W.1 assessed a gentleman leading a good standard of life with own flat, Car, Telephone etc. , that it was after giving due credence to the words of P.W.1 that his annual income was more than Rs. 75,000/- and was paying a substantial amount as income tax that his father A2 had decided to have Jyothi as his daughter-in-law without any pre-condition. He  accuses P.W.1 of having spoilt the human and cordial relations due to his subsequent conduct. He returns the cheque for Rs. 1,500/- which P.W.1 had sent to Jyothi for her air ticket to Bombay. A1 finally asks P.W.1 two questions whether Jyothi is entitled to her share from the assets of her parents and whether P.W.1 wants to see A1 and Jyothi lead a happy life maintaining good relations with both the families.

However, before concluding these words I would like to know,

1. Whether your daughter Jyothi is entitled to get her due share from the assets belonging to her parents as in the case of any other married girl, or is it your intention to evade your moral and obligatory responsibility towards your only daughter on flimsy and unreasonable grounds, as if Father- daughter relationship " stand ceased in the event of her marriage with me. I wish to make it very clear that this is not a demand as interpreted by her mother but a claim legitimately due to a female member of your family. If you are liberal enough to give anything to your daughter on this account, let her have it at present to meet a basic necessity.

Answer to the last two points:

1. As long as we do not have anything to share neither to Jyothi not to Unny or Jagu the question never arises whether our children ( not only Jyothi) are entitled to get their share from the assets belonging to their parents. If a father arranges a  marriage to his daughter and gets her married, it does not mean that he is doing so to evade his moral and obligatory responsibilities towards his daughter. Instead it itself shows his moral and obligatory responsibilities towards his daughter. My first and most important moral and obligatory responsibility towards my children is to get them educated, well employed and be financially independent. That I have done to Jyothi.

1987. The mother naturally got flared up on the issue of Sharma's housing scheme .

Thankamani very well knew the meager resources of her husband and that her daughter was being tormented for P.W.1 not favourably responding to the request for contribution. Ext.D1 letter reads as follows:-

"My dear Jyothi, Received your letter dated 13.3.1987. As usual you are blaming and accusing your parents as much as you can. Anyway we are also immune to all these things. You have not answered the questions which I have asked. You have written in your letter that "some how you have disposed me off and put the entire responsibility on others to look after me". I have asked on whom we have put our daughters responsibility. Why didn't you answer me. Was it not your need to get married? Was it not Mohanan's need to get married? Do you think anybody will simply take the responsibility of somebody's daughter ? It seems we forcibly sent you off in marriage. Then why didn't you tell us at that time that you don't want to get married. We have never promised you that after marriage we shall help you to build a house. In your previous letter you have written that you cannot blame Mohanan because, you have married him knowing fully well that he is not having a house of his own. But we never told that you should blame Mohanan. But same time Mohanan also cannot blame you because he also got married to you knowingly fully well that Jyothi doesn't have a house of her own in Tvm and Jyothi doesn't have any asset other than her monthly salary. You cannot blame your parents also when you got married knowingly fully well that Mohanan doesn't have a house of his own. But you should not deny that you got married to Mohanan knowingly fully well that his father Sri. Sarma had told your parents that he is going to build a house and as long as they are in TVM you will never find any difficulty for your accommodation because as soon as we came back to Bombay from TVM in last April we have told you all these things clearly. Even Unni and Jagu have heard all these things. And now you are asking me "where we will run for a rented house with a kid ? How long we will shift our residence?" You should ask Mohan or Sarma why your father, or why you, told that you are  going to build a house and as long as we are there Jyothi will never find any difficulty for her accommodation. Why you are not asking them. Why did you cheat my parents of course you got all the freedom to tell everything to your parents and ask for a help. But your parents should be in a position to help you. If you don't have money for your basic needs of course we should help you. But here it is not like that. You got your own income. It is quite enough to meet your basic necessities. Now yor are asking money to build a house. We are not in a position to help you to build a house. I have told you that we don't have any difference between a daughter and a son. We won't be able to help any three of you to set up your own house. Whatever daddy got it is his hard earned money. That money we want for our rest of life. We don't want to depend upon of our children's income. We got a house. All of you can stay with us as long as you want. We will accommodate you, feed you and make you feel happy and comfortable. We only can do this much for our children. You know that your daddy is a salaried man who brings home a monthly salary like you. What "due share" you are asking from his salary ? What might you got to ask your "due share" to your daddy. Are you giving a single paise to your daddy since you got married ? You have written that you are feeling ashamed to write to me. You should feel ashamed of yourself to ask a due share to your daddy. You have asked "Don't you have any responsibility on your daughter once she got married". I like to ask you "don't you have any duties and responsibilities to your parents once you got married" . Only Mohanan got duties and responsibilities to his parents because he is a son. Daughter doesn't have any duties to her parents. Her duty is only to extract money from her parents . That also the daughter who has already left her parents and went with her husband and the daughter who got her own income. You told that daddy has written to Mohanan that Jyothi doesn't have any share. Did you read the letter  carefully ? Don't blame daddy for each and everything. He has written that we don't have anything to share, rather to Jyothi as to Unni or to Jagu. And what right Mohanan got to ask daddy for your share and what right Sarma got to ask daddy money to build a house ?. If we want we can put Sarma and Mohanan into trouble just now, because they are asking dowry, nothing else. Whatever properties they are asking in connection with your marriage is called dowry. But we are not doing that thinking of you. You have written that Mohanan wants a house of his own and at "no circumstances he is ready to leave his parents. What does it mean?" If he leaves his parents his father will not give him anything. Here, our daughter has already left her parents and she is still asking money to build a house. Your complaint is Mohanan's father will give him money to buy the land and your father is not giving you anything. Mohanan's father is not giving his son anything. He himself wants to build a house of his own. But unless he says the house is for Mohanan and Jyothi, can he ask money from your parents? And Sarma knows well as long as Mohanan's name is there he got all the right in that house and Jyothi's parents don't have any right because he had told us clearly, once you got married then you don't have any right on her. So if we don't have any right on our daughter then, she also don't have any right to ask us any help. Any way we don't have money to help you to build a house. If you and Mohanan can get married both of you should be able to look after yourself and to take your own responsibilities. You are not a breast feeding child to be looked after by someone else. I got married. My parents never give me my share to buy a flat and I never asked also. But I never used to blame them saying that you have some how disposed me off and put the entire responsibilities on somebody to look after me. because it was my need to get married. Nobody forced me to get married. Now Unni has gone to U.S.A. He can also say that you have disposed off and put the entire responsibilities on  others. But I don't know on whom. May be on his friends and room mates. You have written that all your medical expenses are borne by your father-in-law. It seems that you are giving all your salary to your parents and still your father- in-law is meeting all your expenses. Such a nice man. Then what else you want. You also say that your father-in-law is so nice. He always looks after you well. Mohanan is so nice. He is not giving you any trouble. Your parents are. Then why do you want your parents now. You live with your beloved in laws and your beloved husband. If you want you can come to your parents. If you don't want don't come. You have written that I have sent a cheque for your plain ticket and asked you to come alone. Did I ask you to come alone or did you write to us that if daddy cannot come over there I shall come alone over there and send money for my plain ticket ?. If you want I shall show your letters. When you have written like this why should we send money for Mohanan. And you are blaming that we did not come and take you to Bombay. Whatever things are happening there you are yourself responsible for that I have told you that you should not interfere in this matter any more. Sarma has started all these things without discussing you before hand. And now let him settle everything. You have written that daddy should write to Sarma that he is prepared to help to build a house. And if he is not able to give now, when he will be able to give. Do you want your daddy to touch Sarma's feet and say "I shall give so much money, please accept my daughter as your daughter-in-law . Never, don't expect such things from daddy. He won't write anything to Sarma. Because he has already written a reply to Sarma and Sarma has kept quite. Previously you have written that you want an assurance from daddy that he will give you money to build a house. We can't give such assurance as long as we don't have money to give you. When you were born, did you get any assurance from your parents that they will look after you and bring you up. You have written that  Sarma said what your parents are doing to you is not right. What we have done wrong to you. What Sarma has done to Mohanan, his only child. Mohanan is 32-33 years old and so far his father could not accommodate his son in his own house. And at this age Sarma is giving money to buy land. The cost of the land is only 1/4th of the total estimate and he is asking us to give the 3/4th of the cost. Is there any meaning? And you are 23 years of age. Since you were born you are living in your daddy's own house and now you are asking money to build a house of your own. You said that Sarma said you were my daughter and you will be my daughter always. So you be Sarma's daughter and live with him happily. We are not afraid of Sarma. You are afraid of him because you feel that you are living on his expenses. Unless and until these sorts of feelings will go from your mind, you start feeling that I am living with my own income and I am not depending upon anybody, you will never be able to live a life of your own and you will always blame your parents . You told that your contribution is only a monthly salary. What is Mohanan's contribution to the family. At the age of 23 you are bringing a salary equal to Mohanan who is 32-33 years of age. How much gold Mohanan's parents give to him. If Sarma wants let him settle everything. If you don't want us to come over there at the time of delivery we are not coming. We don't want anything to settle. You have written that your father -in-law has seen all your letters which you have sent to me . How ? If so, you are cheating me because you always used to say that I am writing this letter from my office and nobody knows it. Hereafter you don't have to write any more letters asking for money from your daddy because we don't have money to give any of our children once they start to earn . Nothing more to write. Don't show this letter to anybody."Tear it off and throw away".